It’s come to my attention that some people are a bit confused as to what exactly classifies someone as a jump-off. Over the past few days I’ve continually found myself embroiled in conversations with women about this topic. While there may be jump-offish tendencies in the scenarios they described in their arguments, I think to label it as such would be erroneous. Case in point, there was this girl Natasha that I dated for a minute.

Sex, conversation and everything was great, even still we realized that we wanted different things out of the relationship and decided to part ways amicably. Since we had such a good rapport, Natasha and I felt that just because we didn’t date anymore that mean we couldn’t be cool. So every so often we’d bump into each other at an event or get up for dinner or a movie. As is the case when exes cavort, sometimes, old sparks get rekindled and we’d wind up sleeping together.

“Look, Ans, what is this,” she asked. “What do you mean?” “Am I your little jump-off or something?” “Huh? What are you talking about? You are not a jump-off.” “Well, I don’t just want to be sleeping with you whenever you want.” “We both decided to sleep together. I didn’t just call you up and say, ‘Hey, let’s fuck.’ We went to the movies, ate, chilled and just so happened to end up in bed. I didn’t hang out with you just to get in your pants, I hung out to hang out with you

So how do you define a jump-off? Do guys and girls have different definitions? Have you ever fallen into jump-off status and didn’t even realize it? Can an ex or friend with benefits be classified as a jump-off? Is anyone willing to admit that they’re a jump-off and proud of it? Are there benefits to being a J.O.? Has any females ever flipped the script and made a guy their jump-off? Whose decision was that? Can a jump-off ever be about more than just sex?